Fans of the Real Housewives of Orange County know that Tamra Judge and her 18-year-old daughter Sidney Barney have a difficult relationship. Judge explains in detail the problems of her relationship with her daughter on the reality show. But now, Barney is ready to tell her side of the story.
Barney slammed the Bravo star in a lengthy message on Facebook Monday night, accusing her mom of neglecting her three younger children and causing mental and emotional abuse.
Barney, whose father is Judge’s ex-husband Simon, claimed Judge went against her promise to not post any photos from her recent graduation. She provided screengrabs from her conversation with her mom begging her not to publicly discuss or share images from the day.
The teenager says Judge “[puts] herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me.”
Barney wrote, "I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publically as I don't want to be associated with her or the show. For starters, I did not move out when my parents got a divorce nor did I chose my father's side in the divorce. My parents separated in 2010, I moved out of my mother's house in 2013. Me leaving has nothing to do with the divorce, it has to do with the living conditions at my mother's house and the way she treated me and still treats me today."
"In regards to choosing sides," she continued, "I actually chose my mother's side when my parents separated. This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parents' arguments."
"She even called us Simon or 'mini Simon' when we did something bad or told us that we were 'acting like your father.' This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic."
Barney explained why she left her mom’s house to live with her father on a full-time basis.
She wrote, "The reasons I left my mother's house are that she was neglectful (leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely), she constantly put herself first and the biggest reason was that she was mentally and emotionally abusive. She was no mother to me."
Two weeks after her graduation, Judge shared a collage of photos from the day, despite her daughter’s wishes. Barney revealed that her father forced her to invite Judge as well as encouraged her to attend therapy sessions with her mom.
“The one thing I asked and have been asking for 4 years now has been to not talk about me because I don't want to be in the spotlight. But again breaking her promises as per usual, she puts herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me. If she really wanted a relationship she would keep her promises and recognize that it is no one else's fault but hers that I do not want her in my life."
Barney hopes that her speaking out will set the record straight and hold her mother accountable for her actions.
"My mom has been portraying the innocent erased mother whose daughter was estranged from her due to divorce and an evil ex husband when in actuality she is the sole reason why I do not want her in my life and will not have a relationship with her. Instead of playing the innocent erased mother character, she could've been trying to actually fix our relationship and change her ways. However the character keeps her relevant, and is her only storyline. Why would she actually try to get me back? Without the estrangements she is no longer pitied and talked about and her fame and fortune go down the tubes."
The RHOC star responded to the Facebook post, writing, "All I've ever done is love you from the second I found I was pregnant. I'm sorry you hate me so much. I fought so hard for you. I will always love and hope you realize one day how wrong all this is. So hurtful and not necessary."
She also responded to a fan alerting her of the post on Twitter, "Not surprised. #brainwashed Ask her [who] paid for her very expensive college. I'm good when it works for her and her dad."
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