It's one thing to ask a pregnant woman when she is due, but it's saying a different thing if someone comments on the size of her baby bump. One mother took to social media to make her point about pregnancy etiquette.
At a Dallas Walmart, pregnant mother and photographer Jill Krause was grocery shopping when a man asked when she was due. The mother of three answered his question, but it didn't stop there.
“[He] rudely replied, 'Damn, girl. You SURE it’s not twins?!' and walked away,” Krause, 35, wrote in September 18 post on her Facebook page Baby Rabies. “There is no other human condition in which it seems to be acceptable for a stranger to approach someone and make comments about their body.”
Outraged by his comment, she wanted to fire back, “I mean, I could have asked that guy if he was SURE he wasn’t drinking a 6 pack a night based on his beer gut, but that’s not appropriate.”
For those who are maybe confused as to the proper things to say to a woman who is pregnant, she posted a video for them which has gone viral with more than 1.3 million views. The video is titled “What (Not) To Say To A Pregnant Woman”: “The next time you are so taken aback by a pregnant woman’s appearance that you feel the need to say something to her, this is all you’re allowed to say.”
According to the blogger, the two acceptable comments are as follows: “YOU LOOK AMAZING” and “Congratulations! You’re glowing!”
Otherwise she says there is nothing you can say, “Because the alternative is to keep your mouth shut. Not to ask us if we are sure it’s not twins or triplets or a baby elephant. Not to ask us if we’re sure we’re not going to have the baby tomorrow. Because I can assure you we are all very clear on when our due date is!”
As for all of the responses she has received, Krause believes there is a good reason for it.
“I think based on the thousands of women who have responded to this with a ‘hell yes, amen’ it’s obvious there are many of us who are already self-conscious about our size, and we don’t want to be reminded,” Krause tells Us Weekly. “A friend said a male coworker made whale noises every time she walked down the hall. That’s not funny.”
If you find yourself surrounded by people who say the wrong things, as a pregnant woman it is your right to say something she says.
“If you’re uncomfortable with the way people are talking to you, tell them.”