Jon Hamm Opens up About Being ‘Damaged’ and How Single Life ‘Sucks’

In the July issue of InStyle magazine, actor, Jon Hamm is getting candid about his personal life and revealing how his newfound bachelorhood kind of “sucks.”

The award-winning actor, best known for AMC’s Mad Men, gave an incredibly revealing interview to the magazine, while documenting life after Don Draper and his very public split from actress and longtime partner, Jennifer Westfeldt. While the Midwesterner is focusing on himself after the 18-year relationship, he is optimistic about his next relationship, saying he loves “a lady with style.”

“I think anything that serves to accentuate whatever your thing is and makes you feel good shows in the way you carry yourself.”

But Hamm didn’t just dish about his love life and singlehood. In what is one of his most revealing interviews, the 45-year-old also provided some telling details about his childhood and how it formed the man he is today.

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Hamm wears his heart on his sleeve:

After splitting from his partner and actress, Jennifer Westfeldt, Hamm is lamenting his single status, saying it’s “hard.” The two were together for nearly 20 years, breaking up in 2015. In a joint statement issued to PEOPLE, Hamm and Westfeldt revealed they would “continue to be supportive of each other in every way possible moving forward.”

But as Hamm reveals to InStyle, it hasn’t been easy for him as he admits it’s been “hard to be single after being together for a long time [18 years]. It’s really hard. It sucks.”

For months leading up to their split, the two were plagued by rumors of a separation. However, their breakup came just months after Hamm completed rehab for alcohol abuse. He later credited Westfeldt for standing by him during treatment.”We live in a world where to admit anything negative about yourself is seen as a weakness, when it’s actually strength,” Hamm tells Instyle. “It’s not a weak move to say, ‘I need help.’ In the long run it’s way better, because you have to fix it.”

Hamm’s damaged childhood:

Incredibly aware of his issues, Hamm doesn’t hide his imperfections by sharing he is “certainly damaged — there’s no denying it.”

The former AMC star tells InStyle about how he lost his mother at the tender age of 9, and father at the age of 20. Opening up about his sessions at therapy, Hamm reveals the time he told his therapist something and discovered she had forgotten about it.

“I was like, ‘We’ve already gone through this!’” he said. “But if you look at the history of my life, it’s not great. When your mom dies when you’re 9, and your dad dies when you’re 20, and then you live on couches in other people’s basements … I mean, there’s certainly a version of that person who does not come out of it as successfully as I have.”

Hamm’s take on social media:

If you’ve ever wondered about Hamm’s social media habits, the Missouri native is revealing that he isn’t going to get a Twitter, Facebook or even Snapchat account anytime soon.

The point of life is not to put dog ears on yourself and post it online for everyone to see,” he said. “It’s fun, it’s adorable, but it’s the visual equivalent of masturbating — there’s no point other than immediate gratification.”

Hamm, who publicly criticized the Kardashian family in 2012 for contributing to an “idiot culture” and steadfast desire to document their lives, says having social accounts online is not important to him. Hamm is the kind of person who appreciates the face-to-face culture, revealing that he plays league baseball on the weekends in a public park, mostly for the camaraderie.

“I may be a narcissist in the way that most actors are, but I think it’s not to the detriment of those in my life,” he said. “I try to be a good friend, a good partner, and all that stuff. I’m not perfect, and it hurts when you hurt other people. But the hope is to find the right balance so you can care about your own stuff enough to live your life and do your job well while also not being a monster.”

The July issue of InStyle is on newsstands now.

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