Sometimes things break. Sometimes we break them. It’s how we choose to respond to the broken-ness that matters. https://t.co/hUXDueROJG
— Kathleen Fleming (@UnicornKathleen) October 20, 2015
When blogger Kathleen Fleming’s son broke a mirror in a fit of anger, she wrote an inspiring blog post detailing how to react to anger with love, PopSugar reports.
In the post, Fleming shared a photo of the mirror shattered all over the floor, as huge shards of glass covered a large area in her hallway.
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She wrote, “It took my breath away when my son stormed into the bathroom, frustrated, angry, fed-up for his very own, very significant to him, reasons. And when he chose to SLAM the bathroom door, causing the heavy mirror mounted to the front to slip out of the hardware holding it in place and crash onto the floor — a million, BROKEN pieces were left reflecting the afternoon light.”
She said she took a moment to stand outside and collect her thoughts, as she was unsure of how to proceed with her son. However, when she heard his tears from upstairs in the bathroom, she soon realized he hadn’t expected that reaction either.
Fleming wrote, “Deep breath, #MamaWarrior. Deep breath. That small, fragile soul needs you right now. He needs your very best. Your biggest compassion. Your most gentle and firm mama love and reassurance. More deep breaths. Go Mama.”
Taking her son into her arms, Fleming wrote that she sat and reassured him, telling him that it was okay — that she was there.
“Go Mama. Tell him about Anger,” she wrote. “Tell him now. Anger is a really powerful feeling. You have a right to your Anger. Anger burns hot. It can purify. It can also destroy. He nods. He feels it. He’s met Anger now. There’s a better way to show your big feelings. We’ll work on it together . . . tomorrow.”
After they cleaned the pieces, they swept and vacuumed the mess together, and Fleming concluded that sometimes things break, but it’s in how we respond to the brokenness that matters.
She said, “Sometimes things break. Sometimes we break them. It’s not the breaking that matters, the how or why. What matters is how we choose to respond to the brokenness. Does it kill us? Does it throw us into a downward spiral of blame and punishment? OR, Does it help us remember how to love deepest? Does it push us towards compassion and over the hurdle of ‘rightness’ and ‘wrongness’ into LOVENESS?”
She concluded her inspiring post with an urge for moms everywhere, saying, “Go Mama. Go now. Get that baby of yours. Teach that. Show that. Live that. It’s called LOVENESS. Go. Now.”
