Joan Bremer Reveals 'Healing' and Touching Miscarriage Tattoo
I had a miscarriage two weeks ago.... When Joan Bremer began cramping and bleeding seven weeks [...]
I had a miscarriage two weeks ago....
When Joan Bremer began cramping and bleeding seven weeks into her pregnancy, her doctor confirmed the worst — the 31-year-old was having a miscarriage, TODAY reports.
Bremer began contemplating a tattoo to commemorate the baby she lost.
She explained, "It took about three days to recover, and during that time I thought of getting a tattoo to mark this life experience. For me, all the tattoos I have signify something, and even though this was a painful time, I still wanted to be able to remember it in some way."
She searched out the perfect tattoo and found it in a simple design connecting two hearts in a silhouette of a mother's body with a baby inside.
Although the tattoo has perfect meaning for her now, she also plans to add to it in the future.
"If we are able to carry a baby to term and have a healthy child, I will add a rainbow baby to this design since 'rainbow babies' are babies that are conceived after a loss, just like how something beautiful can come after a storm," she explained. "If I end up having a second miscarriage, I will most likely add another heart to this design."
After she shared the tattoo on Imgur, the image quickly went viral and prompted other women to share their miscarriage stories as well.
Bremer said that she understands the stories the other women share with her and knows there's closure in being able to share your story.
She added, "For me, it was healing to be able to speak about it. I know there is a certain silence about miscarriages and pregnancy losses, but I am not ashamed that this happened to me. That was one of my motivations for getting the tattoo in the first place — I really think it's healing to be able to talk about it."