11 Kinky Sex Acts to Spice Things up Without Weirding out Your Spouse

Warning: Proceed only if you trust your partner completely.

You won’t find any group activities, whips or booty play on this list (maybe next time), but these casually kinky acts will introduce some spice into your sex life.

Just clear your head of those excuses and check out these ideas for a hotter sex life with your lover.

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Scheduling sex may seem like the opposite of sexy, but it’s more libido-inducing than you think. For couples who struggle to find time for sex or have the infamous “too tired” excuse, carving out time for pleasure and sticking to your schedule will ensure that intimacy is ever-present; it’ll increase your sex drive over time, too!

Need help creating a sex schedule? Get the deets here.

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Enjoy an evening in a cozy (and quiet) king bed wearing nothing but spa robes. Order a bottle of bubbly and hors d’oeuvres to the room, turn your phones off and… you know what’s next. 

Feeling adventurous? Book a room on a high floor and do it standing with curtains open and your back against the windows. 

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Trade horizontal sex for a standing “O.” This will force you to try new positions and, once you master the art, you’ll be able to get spontaneous in tight spaces… if public sex is something on your bucket list. 

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Get it on in every room and switch up the positions according to your surroundings. Kitchen counters? Have him hike you up on them. Laundry room? Start the spin cycle, then start your sex sesh. Shower? Hope the head detaches!  

Even Tamera Mowry says bedroom sex is overrated; she opts for some fun in this unusual hiding spot.

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Take those extra pillows and use them as props! If missionary is your position of choice, intensify it by placing one or two pillows under your hips. This allows your man to go deeper and it makes the act surprisingly smoother.

Is this the real reason why beds are supposed to have so many damn pillows? Someone is a genius…

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Throw on his favorite team jersey (with nothing else) and SCORE! Chances are you’ll cross something off his ‘fantasy’ list and every time he wears the jersey after, he’ll have you on his mind.

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Start with a 50 Shades of Grey type of romance flick. If you can make it through the saucy scenes without cringing, step it up and try a XXX film. Instead of saying, “Whaaaat? This is weird,” ask him what he likes about it or give role playing a chance and mock the actors’ brave moves.

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Wake him up with a scandalous surprise that’s way more rewarding than breakfast in bed. Squeeze in a quickie to start the day, but let him know that it’s a preview of what’s to come after work.

And don’t forget to mention that you’re expecting a warm wake-up from him later in the week. Sharing responsibilities is a wonderful thing, isn’t it?

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If you want to explore your kinky side without the super awkward conversations about toys and tricks, download an app like Kindu to find risqué acts you’re both willing to try. This app presents you both with a series of scenarios, but it’ll only save the ones you both clear. Dominatrix conversation, avoided.

Check out these 7 other apps for hotter sex, too!

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There’s a world of possibilities here, so let’s break it down. The first thing you should bring into the bedroom are edibles: chocolate, whipped cream or even ice cubes! When you’re ready, move into toy town. Buy a vibrator and let him try it out on you, get a mutually pleasurable C-ring or take things public with vibrating panties.

Scared the kids will find your toys? This one doubles as home decor!

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The only way to get what you want from a man is to straight-up tell him; subtle hints aren’t his forte. Get pampered just the way you like by demanding him to touch you where, when and how you like.

If you’re typically a quiet couple in the bedroom, this little “exercise” will open the door for sexy conversations—a must-have for mind-blowing sex.