5 Ways to Make Sex Last Longer
Guys love to finish first, except in the bedroom.When it comes to sex, a study by Adam and Eve [...]
Masturbate first.
The first cut is the deepest, and the first erection is the most sensitive. If you jump straight into sex with that initial 'Let's go!' feeling, the anticipation of an orgasm will push you to climax quickly. The best way to fix this is to masturbate before a romp in the sack.
Luckily, it doesn't have to be right before the deed! Ejaculating an hour or two beforehand makes it harder for a man to come as quickly the second time.
"You can build up arousal again with slow and intimate foreplay with your partner, so the guy's excitement is initially satisfied and he can better pace himself and sync up with his partner's rhythm," Dr. Jane Greer, relationship expert and family therapist, told Cosmopolitan.
prevnextSlow things down.
"Instead of the fast-paced jack-hammering style that many men are so fond of, try taking your time," says human sexuality expert Catherine Toyooka to Men's Fitness.
Slowing down the sexual pace leads to a more intimate experience for both partners. "It's more sensual because you're caressing and exploring the rest of her body. Kiss her neck, nuzzle her ear, let your hands gently explore her body," she says.
The sensuality and connection sparked by slowing things down will help a woman enjoy the sexual experience more, so this tip will actually rile her up as it helps him maintain control.
prevnextSqueeze his base.
This age-old trick comes straight from famous sex researchers Masters and Johnson, a team who pioneered the study into human sexuality.
Just before a man is about to ejaculate, his partner can place the tripod shape formed by the thumb, index and middle fingers around the tip of his penis or around the base and squeeze. Thanks to modern sex toy inventions, a cock ring can also work!
With these tools, he'll orgasm, but will not be able to ejaculate. This trick is akin to bending a hose in half to stop the flow of water, though cracking his penis in half isn't the best idea here. A firm grip will do!
prevnextExplore the edging technique.
We often encourage women to use the edging technique for a more intense, full-bodied orgasm or a blended climax. Still, the same technique can help men extend their sexual performance time.
When a man is close to orgasm, stop and wait a minute or two to allow his breathing to return to normal and much of the sensations to fade. (He can always manually or orally please his partner so you aren't awkwardly waiting around.) Then, pick back up slowly to extend your time of fun together.
Sex researcher Dr. Ian Kerner tells Cosmopolitan that everyone has an "ejaculatory inevitability" or point at which orgasm will happen, so this technique trains the body to delay that cliffhanger from falling off the edge too early.
prevnextBring in reinforcements.
Not only does a condom work to prevent pregnancy and STIs, it provides a barrier that slightly reduces the penis' sensation during sex. If you're using a popular brand like Durex or Trojan, swap it out for a thicker condom like Lifestyles Extra Strength to serve as a desensitizer for the act. But whatever you do, don't double-bag.
You can also consider using a 'delay spray', like K-Y Duration, which only requires a few quick sprays before hopping in bed. This endurance enhancer is like Novocaine for a man's penis, so it decreases the sensitivity that leads to quick climax.
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