While there's nothing quite like a spontaneous, passionate afternoon delight with your partner, a lot can also be said for planning for absolute perfection when it comes to the bedroom.
While planning for sex might not sound all that sexy or romantic, having some time to prepare can make all the difference in that date night you've had on the calendar all month. In fact, having an action plan for sexy time can make the actual deed even more fun.
Getting in the right headspace, planning a seductive outfit, even thinking about your upcoming sex session can make sex more fun and sexy than it's been in a long time. Continue to read 5 ways to prepare for the best sex of your life.
In the day or so leading up to your big night, start thinking about the best sex you and your partner have had. Think sexy thoughts. Think about what turns you on. Instead of thinking about what you're going to do to your partner, think about the last time he or she made your toes curl in bed.
The reason for this? By the time the big moment finally rolls around, the anticipation will have built so much that you'll be more than ready.
We know, we know, "to-do list" is far from the sexiest phrase ever uttered... but if you can cross everything off, it won't be lingering in the back of your mind while you're giving your partner the business. Being able to focus and be in the moment is super important to get the most out of sex.
Whether that means staying an hour late at work to avoid extra work later or throwing dinner in the slow cooker so cooking is the last thing on your mind, leave work behind and focus on you, your partner, and all the great things you're going to do to each other..
Want to spice things up even more? Plan out a sexy outfit to impress your partner. A low-cut top or sexy lingerie will drive him wild and ramp up the excitement once he lays eyes on you.
What's even better is dressing sexy for yourself. Reach for an outfit that makes you feel over-the-top hot! If you're wearing a lacy bra beneath your outfit at work, it will be your little secret — until you get home and the clothes come off, of course. Plus, it will be a fun reminder during the day of what (or who) is coming later.
If you're a fan of below-the-belt grooming, like waxing or shaving, good for you! A little self-grooming can get you excited for what's to come; plus cleaning up a little down there can act as a big confidence boost when the clothes come off.
However, it's important to make sure you give yourself enough time in between then and the moment of truth. Micro tears in your skin from shaving or waxing need time to heal before sex. Not only will the friction irritate the newly bare area, but it's possible that the micro tears could get infected during sex.
Increase your mindfulness right before sex by meditating, listening to music that relaxes you or by doing some yoga. Focus on your breathing and allow any negative thoughts and energy leave your body. If you're not into full-out meditation, try something simple like lighting a scented candle or turning on some sensual tunes right before sex. Extra sensory experiences like those will help keep you present in the moment.