It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that there are some things men simply don't tell women... especially when it comes to the bedroom. Whether they're too shy to admit their secret fantasy or are worried their partner will take it the wrong way, men have a secret arsenal of sexy turn-ons.
If you're planning a special night for your partner or if things are just feeling a little stale in the bedroom as of late, check out these secrets men never tell their partners about what they really want in bed.
Men don't like having to ask their partner to validate their manhood, but hearing a compliment about their muscles or sexy moves in the sack can make all the difference in a guy's mood. "This isn't the '50s anymore, but there are still some genetically determined pieces of men's self-worth," marriage therapist Mike Dow, PsyD, told Woman's Day.
Because your guy will feel even less manly if he has to ask you to compliment his brute strength, make it a point to let him know you notice it.
A man might feel awkward saying it, but he might like to sit back and enjoy you being the initiator (dare we say dominator) during sex. "Men are expected to perform all the time and that's not realistic," Dr. Dawn Michael, clinical sexologist and author of Intimacy Guidebook for Couples told Cafe Mom. "They don't always want to be the one to initiate sex."
Next time you're watching TV together, divert his attention offscreen and take the party into the bedroom.
Just because Aunt Flo is in town doesn't mean the two of you can't get down to business! Tell your man that you need to have him, and ask if he's OK with having sex while you're on your period. He most likely won't give it another thought once he sees how badly you want him. Lay an old blanket or towel down to ensure an easy cleanup and be on your way!
P.S. If sex on your period isn't your thing, you could always revert to oral to let him know you still care about his needs.
This doesn't necessarily mean get arrested for public indecency while at the movies or in the park, but the tiniest thrill from leaving the blinds cracked open (even though you know the shrubs will block the neighbors' wandering eyes) can bring sex to a whole new level.
If you want to step it up a notch, try a quick hookup with your guy while at a wedding or friend's party (read: somewhere you have a private room). Your friends will notice that the two of you are missing, but you can play coy upon your return and savor your little secret.
While men certainly enjoy making their partners feel good in bed, sometimes they want women to get to know their bodies and their pleasure spots so they can tell their guy exactly what to do. Giving him all the tools he needs to succeed will only ensure a better sex session for you. After all, if you can find your own G-spot and favorite erotic zones, you can show him — and how hot is that?
Plus, taking control of your sexual needs instead of waiting on a guy 24/7 to satisfy them is so empowering. Take a night to yourself and get in touch with your body.