If your guy is getting regular oral sex, he certainly isn't going to complain. And if he's getting off, you're obviously doing something right (Though that's the beauty of a blowjob; it's good when it's good and it's good when it's bad).
But wouldn't it be great to know if you're really doing it right?
There are tried-and-true techniques for oral sex and there are some more creative options to make your partner squeal, but those sexy tricks mean nothing if you're making a mistake with his precious penis.
Do you know what to avoid?
Though there are obvious no-nos (like going sans lube or, you know, breaking his penis bone), you may be making some mistakes without knowing you're suppressing his orgasm.
Keep reading for some common mistakes—plus simple fixes—to your oral sex conundrums.
The major mistake women make in the oral sex department is thinking a hand job and blowjob are two totally separate things. In reality, a BJ is just a hand job with a bonus.
While using your mouth is a key part of the oral equation, do not forget to put your hands to work! They can stroke his shaft, tug on his balls or even give him a sexy show by touching yourself.
If you’re open to it, some guys even like a little tickle around the booty, and you’d probably rather use your fingers than your tongue for that one.
The head of the penis is always donned as his super sensitive area, but it isn’t his most sensitive! For a circumcised guy, the are of his circumcision scar is filled with nerve endings. If he isn’t circumcised, he’ll feel insane pleasure pretty much anywhere; when a guy gets snipped, it deadens five super sensitive pleasure zones on his penis!
He also feels some strong sensations on the perineum—the spot between his anus and scrotum—that your hands or tongue can play with while you work.
If you learn most of your sexual repertoire from porn—and, face it, you probably do—let’s get one thing straight. Deep throat really isn’t that great. And if your guy thinks it is, it’s because porn has conditioned him to think that he should.
If you have the gag reflex of a normal person, deep throat will cause you to make that gross gagging noise during oral a.k.a be a huge turn off.
The truth is that you can easily simulate deep throat action without having to engulf his whole penis in your mouth. Place the tip of his shaft between your lips and grab the rest of him with your hands. Massage him by twisting your hands in opposite directions while teasing his head with your lips and tongue.
Though some guys can handle—or crave—a little nibble, let’s just steer clear of adding teeth to any oral action unless he specifically requests otherwise. Just like women don’t want teeth muddling the tongue and pressure action happening when guys go down, he doesn’t want a swift bite during a blowjob.
If you feel the need to use your chompers, let your hands work his penis and nibble gently on his ear or nipples. These multiple sensations could be the spice that immediately sends him over the edge.
Just don’t think that sexy reaction means he wants your teeth down there. He doesn’t.
Since women don’t have their own parts to tug on, it’s hard to imagine the line between a fair squeeze and a cobra strangle. But a top mistake women make during oral sex is that the grip isn’t tight enough to cause that titillating friction.
To be sure you’re gripping it right, grip your hand around his shaft and ask him to put his hand around yours. Have him show you a squeeze that’s comfortable to him and learn from his wise teaching. All guys are different, so trust his answer! And if he doesn’t tell you what feels good for his body, it’s really his loss.
The easiest way to turn your routine into a rut is to turn every blowie into a sex session. If he knows what to expect every single time, it won’t be nearly as satisfying for either of you.
Pick a random night out to whisper in his ear, “You’re getting the best blowjob of your life later. Can’t wait to get home!” When you and your hard-all-night guy get ready for action, let him know that you aren’t stopping until he’s finished.