Ready to spice things up in the bedroom? When it comes to keeping the flame alive with your guy, it doesn't require any wild new positions or carnival-like tricks — just something new in the carnal department every now and then. If you and your partner revert to your same old missionary-style lights-out routine, the smallest switch-up in your schedule can be exciting.
What's more is that your man might just be too shy or polite to ask for something different — after all, sex is sex, right? It feels good, so it's hard to complain. He'll be completely surprised when you try one of these five techniques that he's secretly dying for you to do in bed.
What do men want in bed? Continue reading to find out. (And no, the painfully obvious BJ is not on this list, you're welcome very much.)
Take your guy by surprise when you pull him aside during the middle of the day for some one-on-one time. Find an unoccupied bathroom (with a lock!) or a tumbling dryer to put an exclamation point on what he thought was going to be a typical day. If you have the house to yourself, straddle him on the couch or that comfy faux fur rug you just bought at IKEA.
Sex in new places can be sexy and fun; what's more is that you'll both have a dirty little secret about said locale.
If you view foreplay as more of a chore to cross of your to-do list, it's time to rethink things. While foreplay may sound intimidating or unnecessary, the best part about it is that you're making sex better for yourself in the long run — all while having a pretty good time, we might add. Foreplay is especially important if you and your partner can predict each other's every move when it comes to the bedroom. Send him a racy text before you both get home from work — that way the anticipation is building all day until you can finally get home and get down to business. Take a shower together, and when neither of you can take it anymore, take the party into the bedroom. Check out these other oh-so-satisfying foreplay ideas here.
If you're worried about every little "imperfection" showing up in HD, don't be. Your guy probably doesn't even notice those "flaws" that you're so preoccupied with. And honestly, he just wants to see you naked. So give him what he wants — he'll be so excited by the show that you'll start to wonder what you were so worried about. Use it as a chance to see how much influence your body has over him.
It never hurts to ask, right? Ask your guy what he's dying to see you do (or wear) — and then do it. Whether he wants to see you in some sexy lingerie or his sexy wish is to do a little role play, you'll be able to fulfill his carnal desires — and even better, you'll be able to open up an entire new conversation about sexual cravings. Plus, you can ask him to satisfy your own fantasies later on.
If your sex life is typically on the straight and narrow, your guy might be too shy or nervous to ask about a little S&M. Ask if he's interested in dominating you (or in you dominating him) and go to town. We're not saying you have to go full Fifty Shades of Grey, but we suspect both of you will thank us after you break out his silk neckties and fasten yourself firmly to the headboard. (Obviously, only let someone dominate you sexually if you completely trust that person.)