A handful of women are speaking out about why they enjoy giving oral sex, and their answers will surprise you.
According to a sex and marriage therapist named Moushumi Ghose, the experience is all about making the experience more "comfortable" for her.
“The more comfortable and pleasing you make it for her, the more enthusiastic she’ll be about doing it more often,” Ghose said while talking to Men's Health.
For other women, there are several other factors. Read their responses here.
1. She Wants You To Reciprocate
“I pretty firmly believe in general give-and-take when it comes to sex acts. I like being eaten out and won’t date/have sex with somebody who doesn’t go down... so, therefore, it would be senseless, in my mind, to be squeamish about a blowjob,” taxiecabbie wrote.
2. She's Spoiling Her Man
“My husband is the most amazing man and father. He babywears his daughter so she is attached to him like she is to me. He will take her downstairs a few mornings a month and let me sleep an extra half hour. He does dishes and laundry while I breastfeed so we can spend time together after she goes to bed. He has never raised his voice or lost control with our daughter. He is silly, gentle, loving. He’s just amazing.
When my daughter was born, we labored for 3 days and then had an emergency c-section. I ended up with a double infection and septic. He never left my side, except to get food, and he was the most incredible person. He changed our daughter’s diapers for the week we were in the hospital because I could barely move. And when our daughter was hungry, he held her to my breast to feed her. Night and day, around the clock. He changed her, soothed her, sang to her, held her skin to skin, was silly with her, and fed her. For one week straight. And when I broke down because I didn't think I'd ever get to be whole or home again, he was reassuring and warm.
"My husband gets BJ’s because he deserves to be spoiled. If my husband could finish multiple times in a row, I’d give him a BJ every single day, maybe even multiple times a day. But we’re trying to have another baby, so he doesn’t get them near as much as he deserves," Helloground42 said.
3. Because It's Not That Unusual
“I don’t really get this question. It’s like asking: 'People who like swimming, why?' People usually do things they enjoy doing or they enjoy doing it for someone they love. It’s not like a blowjob is such a strange and disgusting thing that would warrant writing a whole motivation on it.” fadcat said.
4. She's Genuinely Showing Her Appreciation
“I feel in control... but most importantly, I just love pleasing him. My boyfriend is currently working 65-70 hour weeks, manual labor. He’s exhausted when he comes home. He eats dinner, plays on the computer 30-45 minutes, then drags himself to bed. He’s doing all this so I don’t have to worry about working while I’m in school.
"So, a few times a week, he gets a BJ. He’s too tired for sex, but that release helps him sleep, and keep his stress levels in check. I occasionally get sex in the process but not like we used to. That’s ok. This season of our lives will be over soon, and things will get back to normal.” mandabeth5 said.
5. It Turns Her On
“The moaning. There is nothing...and I tell you, NOTHING better than hear a man genuinely moan.” DragKweenMermaid said.
6. She's In Control
“Being a woman and always feeling physically inferior to the guys I’m with or around, I like knowing that I have this power to control what pleasure or pain they feel.” Pinkandtiny said.
7. She Finds Pleasure In It
“Probably the same reason that men like giving oral too. It’s sexy and fun.” ill_enjoyment said.
8. It's A Quickie
“It’s a fun way to make him happy when I don’t feel up to getting all hot and sweaty during sex. Plus, no cleanup.” kittyclawz said.