5 Easy Tweaks That Make Sex So Much Better for Women
Though you may live under the impression that all sex is good sex, why would you want to stop at [...]
Use lube:
Conceding to the fact that lube is an important part of sex shouldn't be an ego-buster. There's nothing wrong with you that you can't make her 'wet' enough; no matter how much your turn her on, a lubricant can reduce friction to prevent vaginal tissue damage and will make sex feel so much better for both of you!
Try adding a silicone-based lubricant to your routine for a soft, silky feel that'll help your lady focus more on pleasure and less on the irritating friction that can be caused by dryness. This type of lube is safe to use with latex condoms and is ideal for any sexual water play.
Just don't use it with any toys as it can break down the material! For that, water-based works best. You'll just have to apply it more often as it dries out quicker.
prevnextSlow down:
If you normally engage in faster or rougher-style sex, switch it up by going at a more sensual, slow pace. If adult films make it seem like this is boring, remember that they're acting for money, not for an orgasm.
A slower rhythm that focuses on pressure rather than friction can help a woman reach orgasm quicker and feel more intense sensations. You'll glide past her clitoris and hit her g-spot with control, enhancing the pleasure she feels when you hit them just right.
If you're looking to build a stronger connection through sex (which many women find more important than the act itself), adding this sensual vibe to your love-making will allow you to match her breathing. So, look into her eyes and take in the full experience of sex, not just the tingly feeling down below.
prevnextKeep out:
Most women find it easiest to climax via a clitoral orgasm, which requires literally zero vaginal penetration. So, it's time to stop thinking that you need to go inside her to make her feel good!
Rather than focusing on her vagina (the inside), keep your focus on the vulva—the area that dons her inner and outer lips—and the clitoris to heighten her sexual sensation. Stimulating those areas that hold over 8,000 nerve endings, all exclusively for pleasure, is the perfect way to work her up to orgasm or rotate into your sexual agenda after every few minutes of penetration.
Going back and forth can lead to a blended orgasm, which will put her at the absolute peak of pleasure.
prevnextUse a pillow:
Many women aren't able to reach a vaginal orgasm because they aren't being pleasured at the right angles. If missionary is a go-to for you, you aren't hitting the front of her vaginal wall which houses the almighty g-spot. Instead of totally switching up a trusted position (which can throw off her libido completely if she isn't the adventurous type), prop her hips up with a couple of pillows.
This simple reinforcement is a solid adjustment for the angle of penetration, plus it gives you room to enter her deeper. With every thrust of this new position, you can stroke her g-spot! Now add in that external stimulation and she's well on her way to the best orgasm of her life.
prevnextTalk to her:
Just as men are visual creatures, women gain reassurance and confidence through communication. You don't have to carry on a conversation in the middle of a sex session or use those awkward (and totally degrading) one-liners you've heard in adult films.
Instead, use phrases like "I love when you…" or, "Your body is so sexy." When you tell her you love the parts she's probably feeling insecure about, it'll allow her to open up to the sexual experience without reservations. Even hearing a guy moan (if it's genuine) or breathe heavier will help, as women will nearly always be just as concerned with their partners pleasure as they are their own.
As creatures who rely heavily on our sense of hearing, just saying, "You feel so good," may be all a woman needs to give in to absolute pleasure.
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