The controversial breastfeeding mom just spoke out to share the truth about her ‘breastfeeding during sex’ scandal, but she dropped another major bombshell along the way.
Tasha Maile, a.k.a SpiritualTashaMama, penned an essay on Romper Wednesday to explain why she did, in fact, have intercourse while her baby was latched to her breast.
But in the story titled “I’m the Mom Who Breastfed During Sex & Here’s What You Get Wrong About Me’, Maile stole some of her own spotlight by admitting she films adult amateur content as her main source of income.
In the last six months, she’s been making solo session videos and custom content on the site ClipsForSale for anywhere from $30 to $200 or $400, depending on the watcher’s wants.
“I also do pumping videos [for lactation fetishists, or people who have a fetish for breastfeeding women],” she said. ”I don't think it sexualizes breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is the actual physical act of breastfeeding. Lactation is a different thing. It's a fetish, and partners play around that topic and area without children.”
In these sexual sessions, Maile says her children are never in the room and are not involved while she films these sessions. If a client wants a fetish video, she will produce or pump milk on camera.
“They’re your breasts. They can be sexual,” she continued. “They can be used during sexual play. I have nothing against that. It’s human nature. I think it’s beautiful.”
In her emotional post, Maile also explained the controversial story leading to her rise to social media fame.
Maile gained attention when she shared, then defended, her popular post "Do I Breastfeed During Sex?"
In the video, the vegan breastfeeding mom said she recalls a time when she and her then-husband made love with the baby latched to her breast.
“We are pleasure beings, we are meant to enjoy sex and pleasure and all things can be orgasmic,” Maile stated in the video. “I’ve had a lot people ask me if it’s okay to breastfeed and have sex. From what I remember, I remember sleeping with my ex-husband and my son was on me breastfeeding and we would have sex from behind or something.”
The mom of three boys added: “There’s nothing bad about making love at all, ever.”
Critics slammed Maile, calling her story inappropriate and even accusing her of incest.
When the mom defended herself on the UK show This Morning, it only fueled debate. “I think many other parents have had sex in the same room that their children are sleeping in,” she said. "...even if the baby is awake and off to the side . . . If the baby is OK, they’re not judging you.”
With this looming (and growing) controversy, Maile responded in greater detail about the incident in question in her Romper post.
She wrote that her first baby—who she believes experienced a traumatic birth—was only comfortable when latched to her breasts. When she and her then husband had sex for the first time three months after delivery, the baby was latched (not breastfeeding) and sleeping while they engaged in gentle sex from behind.
"It was one of those things that kind of just happened and it worked," she said. "But there was absolutely zero sexual energy toward the baby, who was sleeping."
In an effort to further justify the 'normalcy' she perceives this act to be, she added, "From the other emails I've gotten, it seems like that's the position that's most common [among couples who breastfeed during sex]: gently from behind."
One of her critics' biggest issues is that they think Maile used her child as a tool for sexual stimulation or pleasure, but she says that isn't the case for her.
"I didn't really enjoy [breastfeeding during sex]," she admitted. "I haven't had any feelings in my nipples since I was 18, so there’s no stimulation with the sucking."
Though she says she doesn't find pleasure from breastfeeding, she isn't knocking anyone who may. "I didn’t even know that breastfeeding could be pleasurable in any way, but I know that for some women, it is, the same way that eating a delicious mango is pleasurable. I think a lot of women have shame admitting that breastfeeding can be pleasurable, but as long as your intention is positive, that’s fine," she continued.
To who've called Maile a pedophile and have encouraged Child Protective Services to take her children, the mom defends her position, but she's learning to understand their concern.
The mother said she's recently learned about the reality of parents molesting their children through a therapist friend who sees these types of cases.
"It’s helping me understand why people are so upset, but it doesn't have anything to do with me," she said. "I teach my kids they can say no if an adult wants to touch them, because it's their body and they get to choose what to do with it."
Now that she's more aware of parent-child abuse, the YouTube star says she wants to use her platform to speak out against any relationship that doesn't have pure intentions.
Aside from the breastfeeding during sex, Maile also introduces another controversial question: is it okay to have sex while your kids are in the room?
She says yes.
"I have had sex with the children in the room once. I’m completely single, but it's happened with my former partner, because I have a family bed and a family room. For me, it works," she admitted. "...it’s like the child isn’t even there. You’re not even thinking about your child. The child isn’t involved in the act."
Many parents criticize this line of thinking because sex isn't an age-appropriate topic for little ones, but Maile says her young children are well aware of all she does (apart from the adult filming).
"My kids know [about the breastfeeding during sex controversy]. They’re there when I make the videos," she said."They know that I make videos for YouTube. I say I want to help other women breastfeed. We’re very open and sex-positive."
Coming full circle, Maile responds again to the controversy surrounding her viral fame. Has her opinion changed? Not at all.
"I’m still all for breastfeeding during sex," she say. "I say if the intentions behind it are to make love with your partner and you have to take care of your baby during or in the middle, I’m all for it."
"They say it’s OK to have sex when you're pregnant and make love during labor, but when the baby is actually there, it’s not OK," she continues. "I don't have a problem with the baby being in the room while we've made love. If the baby is not involved directly, I think it’s great. Those loving, beautiful vibes — that’s great for the baby to be around."